Relationships as understood with in the context of the emotional inter-relationship between two people are in the limited physical plane as a reflection of the higher selves' example of the male and female bonding and connection to a single expression. This has a direct relevance to the Kundalini. The two that are one and the one that is two. So with in this context, the relationship is a reflection of the "as above so below" concept.
People inside of the physical experience may find it quite difficult to locate or find another person who can so exemplify the ideal that the divine union represents. It is the attempt, the striving towards that counts for the most as we live in the limited physical venue. Even so it is within the realm of physical emotional expression to live and love inside of a relationship to the degree that the individuals can. Intention is the first gate.
What is it a person intends when looking for or choosing a potential mate? What are the priorities? What thoughts have formed the basis for particular passions or fantasies or expectations of another? When these questions are considered then the person can find another that corresponds, knowingly or not. We are not always conscious of what we seek. Primal needs can attach to the thought expectations and seek for them from a sub-conscious vector of searching. The alpha male and alpha female scenario connected to the person's emotional needs.
With Kundalini it is somewhat different. Integrity and truthfulness, love and freedom are very important. As the Kundalini begins to change the five bodies, the expressions begin to seek a closer resemblance to the higher divine models. The two that are one. This then begins to manifest in the search for another who can embrace these concepts. If already in a relationship then the support and love and understanding of the changes or the process one half of the relationship is going into or through can be very helpful. Doesn't mean they have to "understand" from an experiential aspect, but from a place of allowing the process to unfold and not going into fear or judgment about it can be very beneficial.
If this isn’t allowed or is in direct blockage of the Kundalini the relationship can dissolve.
Kundalini will go on regardless and if the physical reflection of the divine marriage is lacking the internal, full being, individual expression will not be. We "are" the two that are one and the one that is two. So we are what we strive to find in another.
It is good to find and share our lives and it is needed for the species to continue. But we can have "the Kundalini" alone and most of the activation's and awakenings are in this context. It is rare to find, in contemporary society, another who can understand and support with out fear, the changes that can present inside of an awakening.
When a person inside the Kundalini is searching for social connection with the idea of having a relationship, it is the qualities that the Kundalini will wish to express that will help one to find that other person. Much depends upon the level of activation a person is in. So if it is a pronounced second chakra activation and only to that point the physical expression of sex will be the overriding priority and this activity will be sought over all others. This will fade but when the person is inside of it will burn hot through the system and these needs will require satisfaction.
This is one of the symptoms like the heat and the cold and the kriyas or the electrical and blissful phenomena that, in the person's unique way, can have effect for all that come into this area. Though the details and the urges may be unique to the individual the needs will be similar. It is best to have a partner who can understand these changes but it isn’t often the case. So it is important to be able to transmute these urges. Or find a partner who is willing to consummate them with you. Be careful this is where many can get into trouble as the urges will not always identify with what one has thought was the "modus operendai."
They can be quite different from what one is used to and can be very world altering from a "personal reality" position. No worries. It is the "infusion" that is making these personal priority changes and it is best to go with them as long as they do not endanger your physical or emotional well being or health. So be very careful and do your best to stay clean and undamaged and out of jail regardless of the extreme or not extreme scenarios you may find yourself pulled towards. If already in a relationship one can work the inner physical expressions turning or transmuting them into powerful energies of creativity and strength and physical expression. Reverse the orgasms and other means that on this general list I will not go into.
In the seeking for a partner to have relationship with one needs to focus on the quality of love that one is extending and find a person who can at least match that love expression. Imbalances in the feeling and expression of love can doom a relationship, as the one who loves the least will control the relationship. So look for balance of this most important expression.
I have found that it is also very important as previously mentioned to stay with in your integrity no matter if it means the loss of the potential relationship. It is best as the importance of living externally ones personal truths is part of the patterning process that the Kundalini will engrave into a persons priorities. Often this is the case not always though. It is what I recommend.
Often inside of the Kundalini if you start out as a difficult person then as the infusion progresses you become even that much more difficult. Driving everyone away from you. So look at your own emotional balance and get "some" positive feedback so that you do not blindly go into situations where you are expressing as a complete idiot and an irritating one at that, and oh, trying to find a relationship as well. This can be a very painful and potentially dangerous experience. Be emotionally able to have and to hold another person with equal ardour as much as you are able to do so. - blessings - chrism
As the Kundalini begins to change the five bodies, the expressions begin to seek a closer resemblance to the higher divine models. The two that are one.